Almost six years ago, my former husband broke her cupboard and came out as a woman. To that day we had not understood why she had suffered so long and so very much from anxiety and depression. The situation called for change, and things started at an increasing rate. In the next months we started to find her clothes and she went to her job in a dress, wearing a wig until her hair grew longer. Intake at the gender clinic started and a year later she started hormones and hair removal. In the meantime she applied for an administrative sex change and she got a new name and a new passport. Things went slowly, the waiting lists were very long and Covid stopped all operations for a year. Luca’s turn for surgery came at long last, five years after coming out. We hope a few minor operations can be done in the next six months.
What happened to us? We were and still are so enormously relieved that the anxiety and depression are so much less than before. And we’re enjoying ourselves! We’re still the same old couple, with different labels, but we don’t care about that. We’re closer, happier and more carefree than ever, even if we lost a few people, but that felt like a spring cleaning. Most people understood that changes were only for the better and that we were the same as ever. Nothing destroyed real friendship.
Now and then I wrote about our transition on AN and later on AU. Comments were always sympathetic, kind and understanding. We’re very grateful for that, and hope all trans couples get such a treatment! Thanks, dear friends, for taking part in this story, that means very much to us!