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Mrs.B replied to Loren Miller's discussion God Comes Out as Pro-Choice (Betty Bowers) in the group Freethought and Funny Bones
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"Exactly the same here, Kurt. We've had several disastrous fire seasons, as well as…"
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Andy Stout replied to Loren Miller's discussion God Comes Out as Pro-Choice (Betty Bowers) in the group Freethought and Funny Bones
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Davy commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
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Kurt Neuleuf commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
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Chris B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"Yes, but your enormous country is harder to monitor, I'd think, and to get the equipment and…"
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"But we're loaded with lakes & rivers."
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Chris B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"This is a small country with plenty of open water, so fires are much easier to contain. Canada…"
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"A worry, nonetheless."
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Ian Mason commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"Correction: the rain MIGHT start today, in some places, perhaps. Temps at 30c again might start…"
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"Big, small or otherwise, fires are frightening."
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Chris B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"The first drop of rain has yet to fall, but the clouds look nice. Fires are going on but not on a…"
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"How is your fire situation there?"
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Stephen Brodie commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"We are due some thunder and lightning with perhaps some heavy showers by Wednesday. "
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Ian Mason commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"Long may it rain, Chris. We're due to get some in DK about Thursday."
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Ian Mason commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"Born-to-money indifference, Stephen. And as long as the stupid proles of the world keep slogging…"
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Mrs.B commented on Sydni Moser's group Coffee Break
"A spokesperson for the BC Wildfire Service says 80 per cent of the 212 new fires sparked across the…"
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We are a worldwide social network of freethinkers, atheists, agnostics and secular humanists.

It slowly dawned on me sometime between my 30th and 40th birthdays. You know, the realization that even though you’ve always believed yourself to be something special, better than “average,” whatever that means... In reality, you are just that, average, mediocre, middling, You're pretty good at some things that you’re interested in, but not so great with most everything else. And you never will be, even with dedication and perseverance. At most endeavors, you pretty much "suck," just like most of the rest of us. Even so, most of us are able to “get by.”

When the realization first strikes, you’re devastated, in denial, depressed; the whole macho self-image collapses. But once you get past the initial shock, things begin to mellow out. No more rationalizing your near misses and downright failures. You quit blaming everyone and everything else for your lack of splendor. That takes most of the pressure off. You can start living with more realistic expectations, like that you’re probably not going to be a great rock/movie/journalist star, or become one of the influential elite in any category; learn to be satisfied with what you have, friends and family.

It’s actually liberating, in that it allows you to relax and just live your life the best you can, without apology or regret. You take your life in stride, accept your limitations, and do your best to enjoy the show. And you might as well enjoy it, it beats the misery of whining and crying about it. You create your own heaven or hell, depending on whether you enjoy the show, or beg for the mercy of oblivion. I’ve tried both, enjoying the show works much better, at least for me.

And, yes you can make a conscious decision to enjoy it or not. Sometimes it takes some mental discipline, meditation, joking about it, or just taking a long walk, but you can make the conscious choice whether to enjoy it or hide in fear of it. It’s up to you. Ah, for a life of mediocrity...

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Comment was by Paul Smith on August 19, 2021 at 12:51pm

That notion of choosing to fill in the blank is greatly exaggerated. 

Comment was by Stephen Brodie on August 18, 2021 at 1:59pm

I think we all come to that realisation, some sooner than others 

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