The number one regret that people have on their death beds is that they were never brave enough to pursue their dreams, but settled for what others expected of them. When they look back at their lives, they tend to recall their unfulfilled goals and aspirations. They are often haunted by decisions that resulted in the lives they ended up with.
While you still have a lot of years to live, be sure to make some time for reaching your dreams. Start working toward your goals now; don’t keep putting things off until it’s too late.
Excessive dedication to work causes a person to spend less time with their loved ones. Parents can even miss out on the lives of their children, because they spent their best years pursuing careers and making money.
It would do you good to determine what is really important. Do away with unnecessary expenses and things that only crowd your life – this will make room for improved relationships and better lifestyle choices.
When health and youth have faded, people realize what are truly valuable – they find that all their income and achievements amount to nothing in the end. What really matters in those last few moments are the people who are dear to them. At that time, they tend to miss their friends.
It’s so easy to get lost in the daily grind that you forget to take care of your relationships. If you don’t intentionally stay in touch, you may lose contact with your friends through the year.
The importance of love becomes more pronounced towards the end of life. At this time, unreturned of love will also be more painful.
It can be hard to tell someone that you love them, especially if you fear rejection. But not being able to express those feelings will leave an unsettled need in you, and possibly affect all future relationships. If you are afraid of getting hurt, remember that it’s better to make your love known than to spend the rest of your life dwelling on what could have been.
A lot of people choose not to confront those who offend them, thinking that this would keep things civil. In truth, suppressing anger breeds bitterness, which leads to various diseases. Harboring bitterness also makes you emotionally crippled and prevents you from fulfilling your true potential.
If you want to have healthy relationships, honesty and confrontation are necessary. The common misconception about confrontation is that it creates division. In reality, if it’s done kindly and constructively, confrontation deepens mutual respect and understanding.
A lot of times, death beds and funerals are more miserable because of broken relationships that were never restored. Relationships are ruined when misunderstandings are not dealt with immediately; this may result in a lifetime of hostility.
Conflicts are a part of life; you can’t avoid them, but you should never let your anger last more than a day. Choose to forgive. Right the wrongs that you can, while you can.
As people age, they often feel lonely and long for the company of their sons and daughters. Those who never had children often have regrets about having no one to comfort them or inherit their legacy.
With today’s modern thinking, kids may be viewed as inconveniences or hindrances to pursuing your goals. But keep in mind that your children will be the ones to show you love when you are old. They will also be the ones to whom you will entrust everything you’ve worked hard for after you’re gone.
Failing to plan for the retirement years leaves people destitute in their old age. When that happens, their last moments on earth can be very difficult and miserable.
While you are young, you might not yet grasp the reality of retirement, but it’s important to make a plan for yourself. Be careful not to spend too much on things you think you need now; think about providing a comfortable life for yourself in the future.
Looking back, people would wonder whether things would have been better if they were truly honest about who they really are. They think about the distress they caused themselves and others by pretending to be someone they’re not. You will naturally have concerns about whether people would reject you or accept you if you came clean; you might find it easier to compromise yourself just to be liked or loved. If you don’t yet have the courage to be truthful to others, you can start being truthful to yourself.
People rarely realise that they can choose to be happy. It’s so easy to play the victim of circumstance and prevent yourself from moving on in your life. You tend to settle for mediocrity because it’s familiar; you pretend to be content because you’re too afraid to explore.
Make a choice to have a happy life. Be unafraid of change, and don’t worry about what others think of you. Learn to relax and appreciate the good things.
Your life is what you make it! Don’t allow yourself to be plagued by regrets in your old age. A well-lived life begins today.
I should act upon this much more. love the picture....
Davey: If, as I have concluded from a wagonfull of reading and thinking on cosmology, astronomy, and quantum physics, that I am bombarded by quadrillions of electrical bursts of energy in any instant, that my BEING lacks the necessary equipment (think of the light spectrum which we can perceive and what is really out there) to absorb and truly understand this amazing electrical light show, while I am travelling in a universe that is changing and moving at warp speed (use 5 million mph as a figure - open to challenge on that), the best I can hope to say is that :"I live in the nick of time." (which is not actually true because too much happens in a nano-second for me to apprehend) then in the nick of time (where I am presumably), there is no past -- no regrets, no guilt, no sin - it ain't there. If it is true that I cannot truly comprehend the present, how in god's name (excuse the reference) can I possibly invest some virtual images which exist in the bowels of my deficient brain with importance and dwell on it - to my ultimate anguish. Ditto: the future, and to be accurate - ditto the here and now. I ain't here because "here" already has moved, and it's not now, because that passed in less than a nano-second, and I didn't see it. I merely have created a partial, unreal virtual image which will disappear as soon as my computer brain powers down. The more I look -- the more I intuit - the whole thing is meaningless - so no regrets - more wine!