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It Gets Better: Atheists for a Bully-free World


It Gets Better: Atheists for a Bully-free World

Atheists for a Bully-free World

Members: 22
Latest Activity: Feb 23, 2018

Welcome to It Gets Better

Bullying and teen suicide are nothing new, but in recent years we have become increasingly aware of the damage bullying does ― to both children and adults alike ― with what seems to be a sudden spike in teen suicides related to being bulled.


The death of a child, particularly at his or her own hands, is never acceptable. It is a blight on human society that schools do not do more to prevent this, that parents can raise their children to be mean and spiteful to others, and that bullied kids don't have a support system on which they can rely when they are faced with feelings of despair and isolation.


The content of this group will undoubtedly be difficult to deal with. It is painful to see children ostracized from their peers, and made to feel as if they don't matter or don't belong. Of course, bullying is not confined to schools, either. Many adults experience bullying at home or in the workplace as well. All these issues will be explored in this group. 




In Memoriam: Remembering the Victims of Bullying
Coping with Bullying: Videos, News, and PSAs


It Gets Better Project
It Gets Better Project - Official YouTube Channel
The Trevor Project
Bullycide in America
Respect U
The Price of Hate
Kindness Above Malice
School Bullying Council
Parent's Guide to Preventing and Responding to Bullying

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Comment by Suzanna on February 23, 2018 at 6:05am

Sorry to hear about this, I've heard that its better to say something because you internalize the bullying more if you say nothing. However I often feel bad either way.

It wasn't you who had a problem with what you were doing. You were defending yourself and who knows maybe someone who was disabled or friend of disabled person heard it and took heart that someone had spoken up. 

The way I see it is that, You weren't asking for an argument, you stuck to the facts, the other guy backed down and you made a good point. Even if the guy didn't learn anything maybe someone else there did. 

Comment by Chris on February 23, 2018 at 12:29am

After that exchange I cried at myself because I argued with someone who was ignorant.  

Stupid me might have spent better time arguing with a carp - though carp are more interesting than bullies.

Comment by Chris on February 20, 2018 at 8:56pm

Bullying never gets better - nor in some respects are you able to respond or address a bully better.

For example I was waiting in line at a pharmacy waiting to get my prescription refilled last week.   This was the second time in line waiting for the medicine.

While standing in line a guy  sitting in a chair adjacent to the handicapped line I was in kept needling me asking why I didn't stand in the 'other' line as others.

My first comment was "Why are you picking on me?"   Yet the bother didn't stopas he, a young man much larger than I continued asking - "What's your 'handicap?'. - continuing with questions such as why don't you stand in line such as others.

Trying to keep my patients I said "People in the regular line may have just seen a doctor for an illness - hopefully the people in the regular line will receive the care and medicine needed to cure the illness.

The guy continued asking what my 'handicap' is.  

I asked him to leave me alone and told him I thought he was a bully.

It didn't end there as he pressed on asking me to define my 'handicap.'

Finally I turned to him and told him that I have a rare vestibular disorder that makes it difficult for me to stand resulting in nausea. I asked him if he knew was a vestibular disorder was. He replied "Yes."  To which I said "No you don't, - you probabably don't even know what the vestibular system is - do you?"

His answer withdrawling in his judgement chair was "Yes."

I replied -  "No you don't - you probably don't even know what a vestibular system is  -  continuing with  "Not everyone who is disabled is in a wheelchair."

As he left he said "You made your point!."

I thught I was going to havs a heart attack or stroke after that. I still  have barely calmed down.

Point being bullying never ends.

If there was a video and interaction of the encounter I'd like to see it to learn how to handle it better.

Sorry for posting it - of course exchanges such as the above I tried to explain are always more complicated than a first draft blurt. My recollection of it may be different than others in the pharmacy exposed to the exchange witnessed.

Comment by Chris on August 5, 2017 at 11:11am

If minorities spoke up more often perhaps there wouldn't be so much bullying.

What is the saying:

it's been convoluted.

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

Comment by Chris on July 19, 2017 at 9:07am

There are always going to be people who are mean spirited. 

I don't like using biblical terms, but 'turn the the other cheek' - and walk away is often better than confrontation.  However, constructive confrontation is needed at times to defend the rights of the minority.

Comment by A Former Member on March 3, 2013 at 5:03pm

Hope they catch that SOB.

Comment by Adriana on March 3, 2013 at 4:23pm

A woman from Mesquite, Texas claims she was beaten to the point of unconsciousness after defending her son from a group of bullies. She fears she was attacked because she was a lesbian.

Sondra Scarber, 27, and her partner of three years, Hillary Causey, have been raising Causey’s four-year-old son, Jaxon; they took him to a playground on February 17, where a group of older boys began to pick on him.

Scarber told the bullies to leave Jaxon alone and confronted the father. According to Causey, the father became enraged when he realized that Scarber — who has short hair and was dressed in baggy clothes — was a woman and that she and Causey were lesbians.

WFAA reports:

“When he walked up thinking it was father and mom with the kid, he wasn’t as angry,” said Causey, 26, “but then when he figured out it was a female, he got like super pissed, and I don’t know why.”

She said the man punched and kicked Scarber repeatedly, hurling homophobic slurs at her while she lay on the ground, unconscious.

“He was like, ‘well if you think you’re a man… I’m going to treat you like a man,’” Causey said. “All she kept saying was, ‘I’m a female. I’m a female…’ She never even had time to take her hands out of pockets to try and block herself.”

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Comment by A Former Member on November 7, 2012 at 12:14am
Comment by Adriana on June 22, 2012 at 2:12pm

Sometimes kids really don't realize that they can be very cruel. These guys are owning up to what they did, they won't be bullies again. Another silver lining. 

Comment by Michel on June 22, 2012 at 2:07pm

Police say the four boys who tormented the 68-year-old on a school bus in upstate New York earlier this week have taken responsibility for their actions. 

That's four less little bullies, I'm sure.


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