When little lines start to set in next to your eyes or you'r getting laugh lines, do you wish your skin was still smooth, that nothing sagged, no shadow under your eyes, you're not balding and your hair are not getting thinner ?
Is this a general wishful thinking: to be young (and having more years ahead ?) to look young, wishful thinking dictated by, maybe, our society's strange set of values ? When you're getting akes and pains, do you wish your body wouldn't remind you of your biological clock ? and wishing you could keep the experiences, the knowledge, well the same mind set you have acquired over the years ? Is it an unconscious desire for eternal life ???
I would believe that the the "looking young" part and maybe feeling "more attractive" for a lot of people who are body conscious (some are more than others) is pretty much general in our society as opposed to eastern civilizations or maybe past eras... But, maybe on the other hand, this is some kind of what could be called an "urban legend" solidified by all those movies, shows, ads showing young people, happy ,so often looking anorexic, beautiful young women, or beautiful young muscled men with the beard shadow...
Often, I wonder if I am one who doesn't want to look old and if this is only vanity from my part...
And what do you think of this phenomenon ?
I don't think I've ever met a person who enjoys looking old and having your joints remind you of how many miles one has in one's tires, LOLZ. Growing old is after all, a sign of our own mortality. Even if we do not fear death because as atheists we understand that being dead will be exactly the same as it was before we were born, those of us who enjoy life do feel a certain degree of sadness that it will all end one day.
But i do agree that in our society the cult of youth is so prevalent, that it makes things harder, especially for women; I feel that men as they age earn respect, a little grey on their temples even looks sexy because it signifies experience, but for us ladies, age brings no respect or admiration at the accumulated wisdom; we are mostly seen as nagging old women. I saw how Hilary Clinton was sneered at for being a "woman of a certain age" during the primaries 4 years ago. There was a lot of misogyny in that attitude.
I think that not all cultures are like that, I would like people familiar with other cultures to tell us if older women earn more respect perhaps as matriarchs, in other cultures, or if in other cultures, signs of female aging are even considered sexy.
i no like the pain in the joints, but im quite happy with my 68 year old look. i was young once, but i made it thru is the way i look at it. i pay no mind to what others think.
i think japan is pretty much into skinny youth. no wrinkles, no fat. etc.as a culture. how silly.
I'm telling you, the US is no different than Japan in terms of what's worshiped as beautiful youth. The difference is that in America, 1 out of 5 teenagers is overweight.
Are older Japanese women respected or even revered? For some reason I always though some East Asian cultures have a healthier outlook on aging, especially female aging. But that may be a thing of the past.
adreiasns older women were up to 100 years ago sent to die in mountains in many families. they were regarded as worthless. no production. bur remember this was the age girls were sold into prostitution by there parents. my wifes family, being buke, or samurai class, never did this as far as we know. but it was common among farmers or sharecroppers.
Yes, but this was 100 years ago. I also read that the Eskimos did something similar, that older people (I think both women and men) who couldn't pull their own weight anymore, they were sent out into the ice to die of exposure.
I'm 31 but I look 18... That's because I have a tiny body :P
Someone saw me and said: I can't believe you're a 30 years old mom! I just reply, take a look at my gray hair, and then you'll believe that I'm no longer young :)
You are young (by my standard) but very wise... (I wasn't that way when I was 30) I applaud you...
If you were an adult, or even a child during the depression, but had an effective age of 30 now it would be difficult to talk with other thirty year olds about your experience. It seems to me that you would always be displaced in time.
With hindsight, looking at all the stupid decisions I've made in my youth, I can say with a some certainty that youth is greatly over-rated. The only value of inexperience is the 'ability' it confers to take blind risks. Some of these risks can yield new and amazing advances yet most usually lead to crash-and-burn.
Sure, my vanity is tickled by what I now look like. And I've had to adapt to a greater measure of social obsolescence - not a fun process. But when I consider how the young vehemently disregard lessons from the past, it is not a state I would want to revert to.
I was a really judicious young person... Damn, now I worry I missed out on a lot of fun you had, Michel :-)
i wasnt judicious. i was a very careful kid always trying to figure out adults. but i loved to read and that saved me
I wasn't very careful as a young adult and ended up in intensive care with what the doctors said were less than a %50 chance of surviving a couple of times. One of my old injuries haunts me now.